we are not taught it is fine to be sad to be sad... is a rejection of a society too fixated - on being happy 'and alive' we are not taught about our inside we are not nourished on the pattern of our emotions we are not embedded - in nurturing love that would furnish us, with coping mechanisms and not anxious touch the ups and downs of life are okay, it is normal we are not cared for - or loved in such a way that being emotional that is oaky